Your first-time senior date can be just as nerve-racking as it was when you started dating all those years ago. Experience, age, and the supposed worldliness that comes with it do nothing to ease the anxiety of meeting someone for a possible romantic relationship for the very first time as one only needs words to make her trust you so that you can move on with your dating life.
As a matter of fact, if a long time relationship has ended for whatever reason, divorce or the passing of your partner, it may be even more difficult for you to go out on the “dating scene” again than it is for younger people.
So, to help lessen the anxiety or nervousness of a first time senior date, here are a few tips that may help:
Don’t automatically assume that your first date will be with the person with who you’ll spend the rest of your life! Think of it more as a way of meeting someone new. You might hit it off with him or her…you might not!
You shouldn’t look at it as your one and only chance for re-discovering happiness or romance.
2. Plan Where To Go On Your First Date.
Most people think an ideal first date is “dinner and a movie“. However, this may be too ‘heavy’ or intense for a first senior date. Keeping the setting and tone of your first get together light and breezy makes it easier for both of you. More importantly, it keeps the date short should things not work out!
What makes for a great first senior date is if you share common interests. You’ll find it much easier to make conversation if you share a passion for a hobby or activity.
3. The Setting Of Your Date.
For a first senior date, it’s probably best to avoid going to places where you’ll be alone. While a picnic by a secluded creek can be very romantic, it’s not a good idea for a first date. Yet, on the other hand, going to a movie, play, or musical event, even though there may be lots of other people there, may not be a good idea either! That’s because it doesn’t really give you a chance to talk.
Why not simply meet your possible match for coffee or a quick bite to eat?
4. Be Safe And Have An “Escape Plan”!
Now, while this point may sound a little dramatic, it is an essential aspect of a first date that you need to cover. You should always arrive at your destination in separate vehicles so that either of you can leave if things should get uncomfortable.
Also, it’s important to let a friend or family member know where you are going and whom you’re going out with. It’s a sorry state of affairs, but these days it’s vital that you take steps to secure your safety.
5. Is There The Chance of a Second Date?
After a first senior date, you have to decide whether or not you want to see the person again. If the first meeting was enjoyable and the companionship seemed good, by all means, go out again if that’s what you want. However, if things didn’t go right and there was no ‘connection’, listen to your gut instincts and just chalk it up to experience!
Don’t ever think that you have to go out on second dates just because you went out on the first one. Life’s too short at this point to go out on meaningless or pointless dates. It may also prevent you from investing the emotional energy into finding someone with whom you can spend the rest of your life.
Yes, a senior date can be just as anxiety-filled as your very first high school date! First dates are first dates whatever your age. Go out bubbling with confidence and anticipation, hoping for the start of a great companionship or perhaps the development of a romantic relationship, but, most importantly, also be totally committed to having fun whatever the outcome!