Sunday, 16 December, 2018

Michelle Obama's advice for the Duchess of Sussex: Take your time

Michelle Obama weighs in on the idea of 'leaning in': 'That s--t doesn't work' - NY Daily News Michelle Obama Gives Her Honest Opinion on 'Leaning In': 'That Sh*t Doesn't Work'
Stacy Diaz | 04 December, 2018, 10:42

'What's inspiring to me is that so numerous young women I've met...are triumphing in incredible ways, ' she said. "That's a lie. It's not always enough to lean in, because that s-t doesn't work".

"What I'd say is that there's so much opportunity to do good with a platform like that - and I think Meghan can maximise her impact for others, as well her own happiness, if she's doing something that resonates with her personally", she said.

"Thankfully I get more (and more regular) sleep these days", she said. Malia and I were talking recently about all the little things we'd stress over in junior high and high school - whether we're wearing the right clothes, a snarky comment somebody made about us, the boys we crushed on, and on and on and on, ' Michelle explained. "Sometimes that stuff doesn't work", she said. She died in 2008, the year before he took office.

Mr Obama said that Ms Dunham was "the one who taught me about hard work".

"Leaning in" is shorthand for encouraging women to be more ambitious in their professional lives, but it's been heavily criticized for ignoring the institutional sexism that so often keeps women from breaking professional glass ceilings.

Michelle Obama returned on Monday to the London girls' school that inspired her global education initiative when she was U.S. First Lady, nine years after her first visit as part of a tour to promote her memoir.

"Something that always made me feel good was being around children and young people", she said when asked to pick a favorite moment.

"Lean in" was a phrase coined by Facebook executive Sheryl Sandberg in her 2013 book, which encouraged women not to hold their careers back based on the idea they couldn't juggle work with raising a family. "There was a generation of us who were told we could have it all and felt somewhat a failure when we knew we couldn't".

"He doesn't play games fellas, that's a very attractive quality", she said. "We are stuck at less than 6 percent of the Fortune 500 CEO jobs and their equivalent in nearly every country in the world".

In a study this year, a group of Duke University psychology professors used 2,000 participants to test the "lean in" approach and how it worked with structural and systemic disadvantages women face in the workplace.

"I thought we were at home, y'all", she added. "And I think that gave me a level of strength that carries me through to this day".

She added: "That is one thing we can do better as women, we can take better care of each other".