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The Unsettling Truth Behind the #MeToo Movement

The Unsettling Truth Behind the #MeToo Movement The Unsettling Truth Behind the #MeToo Movement
Nellie Chapman | 20 October, 2017, 05:53

That means, at a most basic level (and I can't believe we still have to say this) not assaulting, stalking, harassing, or cat-calling women. This statistic became headline news, reported on the BBC, Lateline, Al Jazeera, CNN and various other news outlets. However, women's reported experiences of sexual violence were notably lower than men's reports of perpetration. From popping women's bra straps in college to not taking a girl's "No" for an answer, Rafeek detailed how he'd participated in harassing women, even though he had not believed that it was harassment. For women, it allows a rare experience of public solidarity. As workplace sexual harassment goes, it's arguably on the minor side - especially compared with the details of the now-settled 2016 lawsuit that alleged all manner of brazen conduct at S.F. restaurant Coqueta - but in a way, that's the more important point.

Thousands of women across the world, including Pakistan, have put up a courageous front against sexual assault and workplace harassment in a monumental precedent set by a powerful hashtag on social media.

This victim-blaming sits alongside harmful attitudes towards consent. It was started Sunday by actress Alyssa Milano, who encouraged people to reply "me, too" to her tweet about being a victim of sexual harassment or assault as a way to show how pervasive the problem is. Similarly, when police harassment and brutality is such a regular occurrence in the black community that most African American parents feel compelled to have "the talk" with their kids about how to avoid tangling with law enforcement, that too is a problem that shouldn't be ignored. That's the way many women were raised.

Men I spoke to of an age similar to mine were forced to acknowledge the normalization of what we now recognize as "rape culture" - the caricature of the boss chasing his secretary around the desk, tales of the casting couch, examples of the Elektra Complex writ large across our culture for generations.

I'm not naming and shaming any media men - you already know who you are and this is not the time for individual witchhunts. Good men will use their strength to stand between us and those who would harm us-to reject or repent of "locker room talk", to make sure we're heard when we speak up, and to help stop those who prey upon us. It requires all of us to call out sexism and to challenge inequality in our daily lives.

"On the original "Me Too" movement's website, it states, "'me too.' is about supporting and amplifying the voices of survivors of sexual abuse, assault, and exploitation".

It is very easy to ask why these girls or women didn't say anything before. We listen. We really listen. Of course, not all men perpetrate violence. They offered no excuse - simply owned up to their behaviour and apologised for it.

"Nighat Dad, a lawyer and digital rights activist, tweeted, "#MeToo Countless times! It might be on a subconscious level and if we're not forgiven immediately, then we always want the process of forgiveness sped up to our pace. Men know there is a problem, and deep down they know the problem isn't women. What we're learning is sometimes that isn't the only behavior the person is engaging in. We don't need men to protect us, or value us only as mothers, daughters, wives and sisters, we need to see deep-rooted social change.

The past 48 hours have witnessed an online phenomenon that brings out the best in social media.